Kurt Cobain was a complicated creative, a champion of outcasts, an enigmatic artist, a funny man with a macabre sense of humour, a father, husband, and a ‘probably bisexual’ band mate. With it just being 25 years since the icon passed away it seems that people like to focus more on his death then the art that he created.
Those who knew Kurt still fondly remember much more than a static masthead of the grunge tribe.In pop culture the conversation has definitely been overwhelmed by his death.
We do know this: Cobain was born in Aberdeen, Washington, on February 20 1967 to the musical Cobain family.
He started singing at two years old, picked up a drawing pencil even earlier, smoked his first joint by the age of 13, and was bought his first guitar on his fourteenth birthday.
He’d been kicked out of his mum’s home – which he shared with her abusive boyfriend – after dropping out of high school, where he’d taken to lashing out and skipping class.
He found Christianity lost it again as he regularly hot-footed to Seattle and Olympia to immerse himself in the the thriving Pacific Northwest punk scene.
At 22, Bleach was released then Nevermind – featuring new drummer, Dave Grohl – came out two years later, when Nirvana experienced mainstream recognition and MTV slots.
The last time I checked, people practicing traditional death rituals pride themselves on celebrating the dead, not for their last moments on this mortal coil, but for the memories they made and the legacy they leave.
After all, they say it’s not the years in your life but the life in your years which count.
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